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What men want in relationships

2009-10-02T11:27:00.000-07:00

Contrary to popular opinion, men want several crucial things in a relationship, some of which are listed below:

What men want in relationships #1
Great sex
This one might as well be taken care of first, because it is something that is constantly on most men’s minds. Men want sex regularly and are looking for the right person with whom to share this beautiful act. Sure, some guys just have sex with anyone, but most are unhappy with their lives and want that one special woman to settle down with.

What men want in relationships #2
Unconditional love
When they screw up, they know they screwed up. Sometimes it is hard for guys to admit that they’re wrong, but they are harder on themselves than anyone else would ever be. Unconditional love means that they have someone who will love them and be there for them in the best and the worst of times. When you have someone that loves you unconditionally, it is the greatest feeling in the world.

What men want in relationships #3
Full trust
Men want a woman they can trust no matter what, and they just want to be trusted in return. Nothing is more of a turn off than being accused of cheating or being questioned unreasonably about what took so long to get home. On the other hand, if a guy is unable to trust his girlfriend, he will quickly be looking to move on; worrying about whether their girlfriend can be trusted or not is time-consuming and stressful.

What men want in relationships #4
Adequate time & space
Guys need some time to be alone, as well as time to spend with his friends or hobbies. Keeping a man from doing the things that he loves is the best way to push him away. Of course, there needs to be some balance between the girlfriend and other friends; too much of anything is never a good thing. Simply put, men want to be able to have time with you and still be able to see their friends without feeling bad about it.

What men want in relationships #5
Consistent desirability
More than anything else, guys want to feel good when they’re with their special someone. When guys fall for a girl, they usually fall pretty hard. Remember the way things felt at the beginning of the relationship? Men want every day to feel like that—no worries, just pure love and commitment to one another.

Things men love about women

2009-10-02T11:22:00.000-07:00

All that fluffy talk about the sensuality of food contains morsels of truth, especially when the sweaty, apron-clad woman making it is doing so purely for your benefit. And it won't just be the kitchen that'll heat up if you start feeding each other with your hands. So eat up and enjoy. If you thank her the right way, you might even get out of doing the dishes.

SET HER MOOD BEFORE FOREPLAY

2008-05-24T08:38:00.000-07:00

Kiss her

Nothing excites a woman more than a long, sensual kiss. It is seductive and intimate. Proper kissing involves using the right amount of pressure and movement. Kissing can be used anywhere, anytime -- even before you reach the bedroom. If you really want to get your woman in the right mood, kiss her face. Start with little pecks on her eyes, cheeks, chin, nose, and slowly outline her lips with the tip of your tongue. Once you get to her mouth don't dive in NFL-style. Slowly rest your lips on hers, putting pressure then pulling back, gently sucking her bottom lip. This will entice her and set the mood for later events.

Tempt her

Once the mood is set, don't fall into the "same old, same old" trap, and always try new experiments. Perhaps a toy or adult erotica will do the trick. Even if all you do is watch videotapes of other couples having sex, a woman will sometimes want to reenact the scene in the film.

Even if she doesn't explicitly say it, you can judge her level of arousal by her breathing. Short breathing means that she is excited. Softly whispering how you feel to her can also increase sexual tension. Simply describe everything you are feeling, omitting the Shakespeare sonnets. This is the perfect moment to ask about her fantasies: Ask her an open-ended question, and be supportive of whatever answer she gives or she'll never open up again.

Multiple Personality Disorder (MPD)

2008-04-24T13:14:00.000-07:00

Causes and symptoms

The severe dissociation that characterizes patients with DID is currently understood to result from a set of causes:

An innate ability to dissociate easily
Repeated episodes of severe physical or sexual abuse in childhood
The lack of a supportive or comforting person to counteract abusive relative(s)
The influence of other relatives with dissociative symptoms or disorders

The relationship of dissociative disorders to childhood abuse has led to intense controversy and lawsuits concerning the accuracy of childhood memories. The brain's storage, retrieval, and interpretation of childhood memories are still not fully understood.

The major dissociative symptoms experienced by DID patients are amnesia, depersonalization, derealization, and identity disturbances.

Amnesia

Amnesia in DID is marked by gaps in the patient's memory for long periods of their past, in some cases, their entire childhood. Most DID patients have amnesia, or "lose time," for periods when another personality is "out." They may report finding items in their house that they can't remember having purchased, finding notes written in different handwriting, or other evidence of unexplained activity.

Depersonalization

Depersonalization is a dissociative symptom in which the patient feels that his or her body is unreal, is changing, or is dissolving. Some DID patients experience depersonalization as feeling to be outside of their body, or as watching a movie of themselves.

Derealization

Derealization is a dissociative symptom in which the patient perceives the external environment as unreal. Patients may see walls, buildings, or other objects as changing in shape, size, or color. DID patients may fail to recognize relatives or close friends.

Identity disturbances

Identity disturbances in DID result from the patient's having split off entire personality traits or characteristics as well as memories. When a stressful or traumatic experience triggers the reemergence of these dissociated parts, the patient switches-usually within seconds-into an alternate personality. Some patients have histories of erratic performance in school or in their jobs caused by the emergence of alternate personalities during examinations or other stressful situations. Patients vary with regard to their alters' awareness of one another.

How To Measure Correct Bra Size

2008-04-24T13:12:00.000-07:00

The modern bra was designed to hold a woman's breasts at the level where they grew out of her body. A bra that does that is the right bra size for you. What exactly is the right level for you?

Stand in front of a mirror, without your bra and without anything covering you on top, turn to the side, and look in the mirror. Do you see the bottom line of your breasts where they come out of your body? If you're like most women, your breasts themselves are hanging, sagging below that line. Maybe just a little, but maybe a lot.

Most women are wearing a bra that holds their breasts at the level you see them hanging or sagging in the mirror. THIS IS A MISTAKE.

A bra worn like this is not doing what it was designed to do. If your bra lets your breasts sag below where they grew out of your body, you are not wearing the correct bra size.

Now, lift up your boobs while you're standing sideways in the mirror. You see the bottom part, the part where your boob becomes a part of your body at its lowest point? The spot where you would put a tape measure to take your "under the bust" measurement?

That's the level your bra should hold your breasts at, because that's the level your breasts grew out of your body. The modern bra was designed to hold your breasts at that spot, because that is where your breasts belong, and your bra was designed to hold your breasts where they belong.

You may think that I'm needlessly repeating myself, but this is the one mistake that everyone is making. Don't be like everyone else. Be the 1 out of 10 women who knows the proper way to measure bra size.

Now here's something interesting. Get a tape measure and take your "under the bust" measurement, just under your breasts where they grew out of your body. Now move the tape measure a few inches downward and take another measurement. Then move the tape measure downward one more time, and take another measurement. When most women do this, they find that they get a bigger number the lower they measure on their body.

Learn your spouse's sexual triggers.

2008-04-24T13:08:00.000-07:00

We often joke about his-and-hers sexual triggers. Usually we say that men have one sexual trigger: everything. Women are a bit more complex. But seriously, because men are more visually stimulated, a man can become aroused by seeing his wife naked, undressing, or wearing something provocative. Typically, women are not that way. So a husband needs to discover what his wife's sexual triggers are.

A wife may be a "touch me" girl: she likes hugs and caresses. She may be a "tell me" girl: she likes affirmation and verbal foreplay. She may be a "listen to me and share with me" girl: she opens up after connecting with her husband through conversation. She may be a "doing" girl: she appreciates it when he picks up messes and helps with housework. She may be a "spiritual food" girl: she becomes open to sex after connecting with him through prayer, reading Scripture, and discussing spiritual matters.

How to feel Sexy

2008-04-24T12:58:00.000-07:00

Look at your self in the mirror and say "Hi gorgeous!"

If you can't bring yourself to do that because you feel too ugly, wrinkly, fat, unkempt take immediate action that will fix it. Brush your hair, apply red lipstick, put mascara on. Pinch your cheeks. Then look at yourself again, and say, "not so bad considering I've been ignoring you." Make a vow to love and take care of you - say it whilst you stare deeply into your eyes.

Smile at every body you meet. You'll get lots of smiles back.

Be friendly to every one even those people you don't like. The reaction you get from them will be priceless.

Flirt, don't worry about any thing. Flirting will create extra ordinary responses from men - it'll make you feel good. Flirting is a fun way of showing that you are playful and responsive. Men love it. The thing here is that when you're having a rapport you can feel good even if you think you're ugly, fat or what ever. If you just let the communication happen and stop worrying about what the other person is thinking about you. Have you ever considered that they may be worrying about what you think of them?

Lay off the coffee and sugary drinks.

These are passion killers - they lift you up briefly but you'll come plopping back down. When you're down it's difficult to communicate. And not only that - being down gives you all those unsexy thoughts like: why am I so fat?, why can't I be so...? Bla bla. Rather stay in one good feeling place then go from down to up and then down again.

Eat sexy food.

For me sexy food means food that is still in it's original form. Fresh fruit and vegetables. If you believe that fresh food is causing you stomach problems then find out which ones you should mix and match. I promise you real food beats any processed or canned food.

Chocolate bars, cakes and candies are bad for you but you know that already don't you? Chocolates are only sexy when they've been specially chosen by some one special and then gifted to you. It's sexy and fun to eat gifted chocolates especially together with the bearer of the gift. It's also a grand idea to gift some body with special pralines.

Check out your wardrobe.

Are you wearing any old thing? Wearing any old thing is fine if you feel good in it but if deep inside you that any old thing is making you feel not as good as you could be go change immediately. I'm always surprised that women save their special clothes for special occasions. Every minute you are still breathing and partaking of life is special. I for one don't have special clothes I love them all and wear them all. For gardening I wear my old variation of my once new clothes.

A good tip is to wear clothes that sit well and are comfortable. If you garments are uncomfortable you'll be self conscious. For example I don't wear mini skirts or dresses because when I sit down I find I'm pulling on them to try and cover up.

Wear shoes that you can master and feel good in. No use wearing high heels that you can't walk in or give you pain - it'll distract and make you conscious of your feet instead of allowing you to be a free spirit.

Dealing With An Unwanted Pregnancy

2008-04-24T07:25:00.000-07:00

An unplanned and unwanted pregnancy can dramatically affect an otherwise loving long-term relationship. Some men rejoice, but others simply aren’t ready to be fathers. If they discussed the possibility and specifics at the start of the relationship, he may hope she’s going to stick to the original plan and terminate the pregnancy. And she might -- but for some women, getting pregnant can start clocks ticking and make them suddenly want to be mothers, despite previous agreements.

In either case, the final decision is hers, which means she has ultimate say in whether or not you become a father. This can put tremendous stress on a relationship, particularly if don’t want to have a child, but don’t want to lose the girl, either. While you can’t force her to do your bidding, you can get her to consider your wants and desires if you approach her correctly. After all, your life could be drastically altered by her decision, which certainly entitles you to speak your mind -- you just need to take care with the presentation

Are breasts sexual?

2008-04-24T06:49:00.000-07:00

Breasts are just a part of the "whole package" that makes a woman. Obviously they are beautiful, feminine body parts, yes, but the mere looking at them in some everyday context shouldn't make men instantly think about sex.

We are not saying that men can't appreciate woman's breasts as feminine and beautiful body parts, or that man and woman can't enjoy touching each other's bodies during the intimate relationship. We are saying breasts are NOT supposed to be some kind of a "turn-on", a special obsession point for men.

The advertisements and media images play to the idea that men are supposed to be "all ready" the instant they get a flash of a breast. It's not men's fault though, if they think so, because they have been culturally conditioned to see it that way. So on this site we hope to fight back against this sad trend.

We're saying let breasts be like legs and hips and neck and face etc. and all the other body parts - not some almost like inanimate objects that automatically 'click men's brains' to the "turn on" mode. Some people mention to us Song of Solomon, which mentions breasts in a sexual context. BUT it clearly places breasts on the same level as other body parts, such as teeth, neck, and hair.

Seduction tips for grown-up boys

2008-04-24T06:45:00.000-07:00

1. Get in the bath together: it helps to separate work from play and wakes up her nerve endings, too.

2. Set the scene: dim the lights, play some music she likes, change the sheets – hide the dirty laundry and your BlackBerry.

3. Kiss her how you used to on your early dates: put your hands in her hair, hold her face, and take your time.

4. As you undress her, (and DO undress her) tell her how much you love her body. Be specific! “And this is my favourite part . . .”

5. Don’t go straight for the boobs! That’s for teen boys and men who take their wives for granted.

6. If she has trouble being selfless in bed, blindfold her with your tie so she has no choice.